I am just returning from a much anticipated trip. One thing I haven’t felt in a while, is that my nervous system feels completely different, and I know it’s from not using technology. I just booted up my computer and instantly noticed a subtle shift in what I was feeling. I had not logged into my email at all on the trip, and didn’t participate much (maybe one story) in Instagram. Besides using the phone for communication with texting and Whatsapp, and Google for directions, I’ve been fully in the moment.
The last time I did a technology detox, was accidentally, on my honeymoon. We got married in 2020 and decided we’d wait a little longer before taking a honeymoon trip. We ended up deciding to go on a trip just after our 1 year anniversary – which was September 2021. We opted to save money and decided to camp at 3 national parks we could drive to. The experience was awesome! We walked so much, cooked food, things were simple. I couldn’t use my phone at all — we didn’t have much reception and I have an older phone, so it doesn’t do well unless fully charged and has full bars of reception. What ended up happening is that I had a complete technology detox.
Here’s what I noticed after that trip:
- It was easier for me to just “be” – my brain didn’t have to be busy every single moment
- I had time to connect with my senses – I smelled the pine trees, felt the hammock moving side to side, and heard the sticks snapping in the woods
- I sensed a new kind of freedom, which is hard to explain unless you’ve felt it, because I was no longer carrying around my phone, and looking at it every 5 minutes. The time of day didn’t matter, because we had no schedule, so I didn’t need to look at it for the time.
- I felt lighter and less anxious, even though I am not an anxious person
Once we got back to cell phone service, it felt odd to be constantly glancing at my phone. It had less appeal. I logged onto apps like Instagram and felt instantly overwhelmed and was able to really FEEL my nervous system start to shift into sympathetic mode. I energetically could feel myself change from a laid back state to a forward leaning state.
Now if you’ve never experienced a technology detox, you might have zero idea what I am talking about. And that’s ok. I write about my experience so that you can assess in your own life if this would be helpful for you.
I work with women in my practice who are dealing with a variety of hormone imbalances. But what women don’t realize is that hormone imbalances don’t exist in a vaccuum. They are a product of behavior and imbalances in other areas. For example, if your nervous system is balanced, your cortisol doesn’t go high or low. If you manage stress well, your progesterone won’t be low. If you detox properly because you eat well and are maintaining a healthy weight, then most likely you have a healthy estrogen level. Now this is heavily simplified, but that’s not the main focus of this article.
Part of what I do for the women I work with is help them improve their relationship to stress. We are so deep into the stress that we don’t consciously feel the effects on our bodies. Technology is one of those insidious things that can cause more stress and overwhelm with day to day use.
Let me share my experience. So after my recent trip I was having similar feelings as to when I came back from my honeymoon 4 years ago. I noticed that scrolling instagram was overwhelming, I felt all the ads to be annoying and dysregulating. I noticed that even logging onto Facebook, where I really only follow Doctor support groups and some baby wearing buy/sell/trade groups, was overwhelming with all the colors and ads. Consumerist culture in itself is dysregulating because they are trying to sell you the idea that you need more things and newer things to be happy. The opposite is actually true.
Do you ever wonder why more people are moving out of cities, and finding properties they can homestead on? It’s because there’s a simplicity of life in this lifestyle that you can’t get by staying in a larger metropolitan area that promotes constant hustle and bustle.
After my weekend away I also noticed that I was starting to have slight anxiety about logging onto my email. As a doctor, I feel like most of my work is managing peoples emotions. Running a business and seeing patients feels similar, because everyone wants something for you on their own time table even if you’ve clearly communicated your own boundaries and when you reply to messages, etc. I was noticing that just opening my computer caused my brain to go in a million directions with thoughts about all the things I “needed” to do.
Now using computers and phones and other technology isn’t bad. It can be good. But the constant bombardment on our nervous system, will overtime, rewire it. So we find it hard to be in the present, we can’t notice our stress, we can’t be without our phone, we struggle being alone, we struggle when it’s quiet, we develop low level anxiety or depression, our sleep is negatively impacted, the list goes on.
I write this so that we at least have this conversation about technology and what it’s possible negative impacts might be. Information is coming out about this from mulitple fronts, but I still find that most people don’t want to acknowledge that there might be a downside.
Your hormones and metabolic function doesn’t exist in a vacuum. The balance of your nervous system is directly correlated to your habits. Examining those habits, and if they do or do not work for you, is critical if you want better sleep, balanced hormones, regular menstrual cycles, proper weight management, and more.
A technology detox for 7-14 days can be the best thing to rewire your nervous system- and it’s free. The hardest part is figuring out what you are going to do about it AFTER the detox.
Here are some other ways to help regulate your nervous system at home:
- don’t leave the TV on constantly
- if you consume social media, do it with sound off, and activate sound when needed
- have “zero phone” hours at home so you have unplugged time each day to focus on the important things – your family
- progressive muscle relaxation
- walking
- yoga or pilates in your living room
- pet your dog
- hug your kids
- sex
- do not watch the news
- breathing = 4 counts on inhale, 6 counts on exhale and repeat
- warm magnesium salt baths
- minimizing light at night
- diffusing stress with “stress shakes,” tapping, and quick bursts of exercise
- realize you have the power to change your own reality
I hope this sparked some ways you can improve your life and relationship with stress.
Until the next blog, see you soon — Dr. Meg